Sex Therapy

When people run into issues in their relationship, they often experience difficulty with their sex lives. In addition to helping with relationship struggles, I can help by providing education and support around sex and intimacy – topics which can be neglected or clouded by fear, shame, or misinformation.

Frequently, though, couples have a great relationship/partnership and sex is their biggest struggle. There are many reasons why couples who are excellent partners may want to seek help with sex.

Sometimes couples find it difficult to talk about sex. We have fun ways to start the conversation, keep it going, and help couples become fluent in the language of sex.

One of the more common issues I see in my practice are people who have mismatched desires between partners where one person wants to have sex more often than their partner. This can lead to one person feeling like there is something wrong with them for wanting sex too often or the other person feeling like they “never measure up.” Often there is a lot of blame and shame on both sides. Their belief system tells people if they were normal they would feel more desire. Or if they were normal they would be ok with less sex. The good news is – there is nothing wrong with either of them, and there is help available. I will not suggest to you if one partner wants sex once a week and the other wants sex three times a week, you settle in the middle at twice a week. This simply sets up something else to argue about. What I will help you do is understand the differences in responsive and spontaneous partners and the changes that need to be made so that sex between you is worth wanting! The conversation can be changed to better quality sex, think “Is it fun to come to the party?” which, depending on circumstances, may lead to an increased frequency.

Another problem I see quite frequently is individuals who have difficulty having an orgasm. We are really not taught how to have great sex. There is so much misinformation in the media, and I can help unravel the myths and get you to what works.

I can also help with other concerns about sexuality:

Problematic sexual behavior, unwanted porn use, struggling to connect sexually, sex across the lifespan, sexual anxiety, past sexual abuse and pelvic pain.